Another trying day. There's a whole story about getting the rear window fixed and getting Lindsay's car running. Maybe I'll blog about that on Monday. But for now...
The Northern California friends are here! Dave, Nancy and Amelia, Lorraine and Danny, Mary and Jon, Jeanne and Eric, Brian and our dear Michele. Jon and Mary are staying here. We're waiting for Lindsay's friends, Chelsey and David. They should be here soon. Kyle will finally get to meet Chelsey (no, she is NOT imaginary). Kyle's parents are in Riverside but we won't see them until tomorrow morning.
Our good friends. Thank you for coming.
Tomorrow is Jim's party. Better get some rest.
2 comments:
Donita, This is Michael Kohl's sister, Candy. I met you and Jim when you came out to GG to help Michael and me with our dad's garage sale. I'm very sorry to hear about Jim. I've read your blog and it's obvious you are surrounded by a large loving group of family and friends. I trust your celebration of Jim's life was a wonderful experience with many joyful memories shared. My dear husband died quite suddenly last April and I know you are going to experience a roller coaster ride that you never asked for. I wish I could tell you something to make things easier for you. Right now, you have people around you and you are busy taking care of things related to Jim's passing. When things quiet down and people have gone home, you'll feel the full impact of your loss. Your friend is right - this is YOUR loss and you will grieve it in your own way. I hope you don't mind if I say to you, don't try to be strong. Embrace your pain. Cry whenever you need to without apology and until you run out of tears. Lean on your dear friends for support. Later on, a few months down the road, consider taking a bereavement class. I know your pain. I still cry over my loss, but I feel stronger all the time. You and I were lucky to be blessed with wonderful partners. My heart is with you - I wish you well.
Wow! Yes, Candy, I remember you. Michael told me about your husband. Thank you for your comment here. Yes, you do know exactly what I'm going through. I know that as time passes and I've done my "grieveing work" that things will get better. I'm glad to hear that it's getting better for you.
One of my good friends took a bereavement class after his father died and he said it really helped. I will keep that in mind. When my mother died I got through it ok. But this is something different. Yes, I will lean on my family and friends but if it seems like I'm really having trouble I'll take a class. I have a new life to build and if I'm unable to function it will set me back.
I'm sorry to hear about your husband. I do remember that you two were very good partners. Thank you very much, Candy. Your comment really did help.
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