Our Aunt Jeanie died a couple weeks ago. We knew it was coming. She was 84, and in failing health. Dede, Stacey, and I went to Galveston this weekend for her funeral. We were looking forward to spending time with the family.
It's kind of strange when a matriarch dies. Who's in charge now?
As soon as we walked in the door, multiple warm reunions commenced. It was a comforting mingle of cousins. Conversations were short. We knew there'd be plenty of time for catching up later.
Then I noticed the open casket. Oh, hey, Jeanie. I went over and stood by her casket. It's always unnerving seeing the empty shell of a person you loved, and seeing Jeanie all delicate and stiff, and looking nothing like her living self, gave me a strange, empty feeling. So, we just kind of hung out for a while. I stood there and took it all in, remembering. When I first met her, I was 6 or 7 years old, and thought she was the bee's knees for sure. She was beautiful and vivacious, and I'd never known anyone like her. She had a nasal voice with a strong New Orleans accent. And she was funny. She kind of bugged her eyes at you when she was telling a story, her voice rising and falling as it went along.
She and my Uncle Herbie were a dynamic couple. Herbie was my mom's little brother, and he's still the funniest person I've ever met. Together they were almost performance artists. When you were with them, you were part of the Herbie and Jeanie Show. You would be immersed in laughter at the stories and songs, with Herbie frequently asking, "Can I get you anything?" When you were in that room, you felt like you belonged there.
Herbie died a few years ago, and Jeanie just kept going. Her energy never diminished. A few years before we lost Herbie, we started going to Galveston's Mardi Gras. I'm grateful for the technology that allows us to easily take videos, because we have several minutes of footage of Herbie and Jeanie dancing in the street. It seems they took every opportunity to dance with each other whenever the moment presented itself. They looked young in those moments.
After Herbie died we still went to Mardi Gras. Jeanie didn't come with us to the Strand, but we always had great visits, sitting around the dining room table. But for her 80th birthday (which was during Mardi Gras), her daughter Jenna (my goddaughter), fixed up a box on a stick that she could hold up to catch the beads being thrown from the parade floats. The box had a sign on the front that said something like It's My Birthday! Throw Something Good! Yep, they threw the good stuff, and she caught it. I think that was her last Mardi Gras.
Her health had already begun to fail before Herbie died. Parkinson's settled in, causing significant tremors, and sapping her strength. She still had that marvelous energy, but just a bit less of it. She continued to become more frail, and eventually, that was it. She left to go dance with Herbie.
I'll write more about the funeral in my next blog post.